- Accept that all bodies come in a variety of shapes and sizes.
- Explore yourself, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
- Recognize your positive qualities. You have so much to offer!
- Take a moment and thank each body part, one by one, for everything they do for you.
- Allow yourself to make mistakes
- Be yourself; Whatever size, color, religion, gender, race or sexual orientation. Don’t make apologies for yourself.
- Let go of fear. Don’t’ let fear keep you from living your life the way you want to. Don’t be afraid to put on spandex and go to the gym. Don’t be afraid to order that piece cheesecake . Don’t be afraid of what people say, just be you.
Your body is amazing the way it is. You are amazing just the way you are.
I know it isn’t easy and it’s a hard process, but pick out one things each day.
The way you smile, the way your eyes are shaped, the way your legs move, the shape of your nose.
Thank your body for being there each day, no matter what weight you may be.
Appreciate your heart for beating, your lungs for breathing and your eyes for seeing.
Appreciate the fact that you deserve to have a great relationship with your body, no matter what size.
You’ll start to see how beautiful you are.
If you’re fat.
If you’re skinny.
If you’re short or tall.
If your nose is big and your boobs are small
You deserve the same respect as us all.
Even if your feet are large and your hands are small
You are a beautiful person, that’s what you are.
There is too much time spent telling people why having eating disorders are wrong and no one ever takes the time to look inside the mind of a particular person with an eating disorder to figure out why it is right to them. People who have eating disorders are just grouped together like cattle, one reason being the same for everyone.
I read so many articles condemning eating disorders and criticizing those who have time. They spend time reprimanding and forcing people into remission, instead of figuring out the root of the matter and repairing there.
If you want to help someone going through an eating disorder, just be there for them. Listen without judging, be an open ear whenever needed, listen without harshly giving answers or your own opinions.
People who are going through these things know the effects and risks. They don’t need to be badgered by the very people they call friends. Sometimes the best answer is just listening.
Eating disorders, body image and weight can be forgotten over time.
Criticism, insults and assumptions and hurtful words/actions cannot so easily.
Savannah Senner is a 20 year old who has been the victim of bullying for many years. After two suicide attempts and many destructive behaviors, Savannah has decided to fight back against her bullies, one blog post at a time.
Our blogger, Raven Mosley, interviewed Savannah to see what steps she is taking to fight bullying, and in what ways bullying has changed her life.
Hold on Another Day: How old were you when the bullying first began?
Savannah Senner: I was 13 when I started being bullied by my group of “friends”, but mainly just two girls from that group.
HOAD: How did being bullied affect your personal life?
SS: I couldn’t talk to other people without feeling judged or criticized. I constantly felt less than everyone else.
HOAD: In your opinion, what was the worst part of the bullying?
SS: The worst part of the bullying was when the girls at school would yell obscenities at me, call me stupid, and tell me I was overreacting to everything when I wasn’t.
HOAD: How did the bullying you went through in the past impact your life in the present?
SS: Because of being bullied, I have a hard time trusting myself to make decisions, as I was always told everything was my fault and that I was stupid. But it’s also made me a much better and stronger person. I feel like I can really help others and make a difference because of it all. It’s actually been a blessing in disguise!
HOAD: You said that you tried to commit suicide, how old were you when that happened?
SS: Yes, I attempted suicide twice when I was 16 (10th grade).
HOAD: What happened?
SS: I was at school and I overdosed twice on ibuprofen.
HOAD: How were you able to finally overcome the bullying?
SS: Finally, during my senior year, I had had enough of their shit, so I separated myself from them for good. I made other friends and got the two girls out of my life as much as I could.
HOAD: Do you believe music can help a person through a tough situation like bullying?
SS: Yes, I’m a firm believer that music can get someone through bullying. Through music, we can find our inner strength to carry on and see a light at the end of our black hole.
HOAD: Are there any songs or an artist who you connected with that helped empower you?
SS: I mostly listened to the band Balance Problems a lot, but I also started listening to Christian music. It really empowered me to keep going. For some reason, I found Send Me On My Way by Rusted Root to be pretty helpful. I think the song I listened to most to help me was Chances by Five for Fighting.
HOAD: What do you think is the best way to deal with bullying?
SS: I believe the best way to deal with bullying is just to kick them out of your life, and don’t allow them to control your thoughts and feelings. Once you give them that right, they win - don’t let them. If you feel it’s necessary, talk to a parent, teacher, coach, school counselor, etc. Just talk to anyone who can help you, because you shouldn’t be going through it alone.
HOAD: If you could give advice to someone who is being bullied, what would you say?
SS: Remember that you are worth more than what they’re telling you. Don’t listen or pay any attention to what your bullies are saying to you because in reality, they’re only jealous of you - you’re special and you have a likable quality that they lack, and they desperately wish they had it. Always keep in mind that you’re a better person than they are, and remember that the bad times are only temporary.
**You can find Savannah at keepthepositivityflowing.tumblr.com
If you would like to share your story of bullying, please submit to Raven at Bullied No More or message us with your contact information to be interviewed!
I will be picking some answers for tomorrow’s video!
people say ‘heavier girls are hotter than thin girls’ and like okay, thats fine to say, thats your personal preference, just as if someone were saying ‘blondes are hotter than brunettes’. but no one is like ‘blondes are hotter than brunettes, brunettes are disgusting and unattractive why would anyone rather be blonde than brunette it makes me want to gag’ like they do when comparing heavier girls and thinner girls. also usually on the topic of body weight very nasty connotations are attached to the adjectives like ‘rail thin’ and ‘unhealthy’ like okay thanks for reminding me, im sorry that you shake your head in disgust every time you see someone like me in public